One of the best ways of keeping your wrath under command is  through keeping tabs of what triggers the wrath answer from you.  Not knowing what makes you react angrily would not help you  command your emotions. Keep track of the daily things that gnaw  away at your patience or might otherwise solicit an unprecedented  reaction from you.

Pay attention to situations that may activate negative feelings.  Hold back a daily memo of everyday scenario as soon as the feelings of  emotional anger surface. Make sure you carry a notepad for taking  down notes throughout the day. Make special notice of the time of  day you are prone to be shorter tempered than usual.

Triggers may come in the form of persons. Try to notice if it is  just one peculiar person or if it is a group of folks that make  you wrath.  If it is just the same person, be aware of the  situation in general. Does the person make you wrath because they  are purposely making you wrath or if it is just the annoyance of  having the person around.

This should at least give you awareness to avoid the person in the  time to come, or if avoidance is not possible, awareness will at least  keep you on guard for any emotional response from you and perhaps  you would be better equipped in handle matters of conflict.

Sometimes anger perhaps a response to situations. Traffic jams, for  example or long lines at the DMV are usual inescapable  conditions. Venting your anger on some one will not solve your  problem as the problem does not lay on any single person, but on  the whole situation.

Make special note if it is one peculiar situation or a variety  of situations altogether that make you lose command. Perhaps the  trigger may be in the common events that arise in different  situations, like long lines in particular whether in the grocery,  the bank or at the movie theatre. If you can not avoid the same  situation that could trigger an wrath response from you, at least  you should be aware that you could potentially have an emotional  outburst during this time.

Some triggers may not be in the form of folks or situations.  Sometimes the culprit may lie in things, like machines that do not  work when you need it the most, or computer glitches. We have all  lost our temper one time or another when dealing with machines  that just refuse to work with us. Perhaps it is high time to get  your computer upgraded, or junk that paper copier and get a new  one. If not, then you could perhaps ask someone to assist you and  you could avoid the situation altogether.

Make special note of the time of day when the outburst occurred.  Some folks are just hot tempered during particular times and  being aware of the time when you could be more vulnerable to wrath  attacks could help you avoid the situation in the future. If you  notice that you are especially hot tempered after lunch, for  example, then you could perhaps take this cue and take a short nap  after lunch hours, just to skip the angriest part of your day. Or  make this time an alone time, giving you time to relax and take a  break from folks, things or situations.Grinder